Monday, June 22, 2009

Reflections at 3 months...

We've been officially waiting three months. How many more months of waiting? Not sure. I do know this journey will teach us more about patience than anything else we could imagine. CHSFS predicts our wait time to be 12-18 months until we are matched with our child. The current wait time is about 14 months. Families at the top of the list are right at the cut-off for whether they will receive their referral and get a court date prior to the 2-month court closure. So families who get matched in June have a chance of getting a court date prior to courts closing in August, but nothing is for sure. Otherwise, you are matched with your child, but you have to wait until court opens in October before your court date. Then you wait another month or so until you are able to travel to meet your child. I have a feeling we may be facing that predicament next year. I also know that based on the number of waiting families ahead of us, there needs to be an average of 25 referrals each month if we are to be matched with our child a year from now. Based on the trend so far this year, I think we're in for the long haul. I need to keep reminding myself that everything happens as it should and I feel in my heart of hearts that the timing will be right for our family...because whenever it happens, that is when our daughter is destined to join our family.

Sunday, June 7, 2009

A Wonderful Referral Story

I love reading referral stories. Every day, I check our agency's forum to see if there is an announcement of a family being matched with their child. It's so great to imagine how the waiting family is, relief, probably over the moon with emotion. I love to imagine what it will be like when we finally are matched with our little girl. It sometimes seems a bit surreal, like "Is this really going to happen?" The wait just seems so long. These referral stories help remind me that it is the journey that makes it all the more meaningful. I especially loved reading about a particular referral of two siblings being matched with a couple that have been on a very long journey to meet their children. Their 3-part story can be read on her blog and it will make you smile. Click here for part 1, part 2 and part 3.