Sunday, February 28, 2010
I've been thinking a lot lately about where our daughter will be raised. First of all, we are fortunate we live in a fairly diverse area. Maybe not as diverse as I'd like it to be, but she will experience other cultures and ethnicities other than the white majority. Secondly, we are fortunate there is a large community of Ethiopians living in our area. I have friends who are Ethiopian and who are excited to play a role in teaching our daughter about her incredible heritage. And then there is an Ethiopian Community Center which has a number of classes and resources we intend to access. And then there is the network of friends who have Ethiopian children. It feels pretty great knowing our daughter will grow up with friends who share her culture and history, and who are adopted. It's amazing how often I meet new faces of parents who have adopted from Ethiopia. I know as our daughter grows older there may be times we cannot offer the support or understanding she will need. And so I am thankful we live where we do, and our daughter will have people surrounding her with arms wide open.
at 11:16 PM
Wednesday, February 24, 2010
We learned today there will be some movement very soon for families waiting for referrals. We're #3 on the waitlist so I'd say it's probably a 50/50 chance that we could know who our daughter is within the next week or so. Still seems surreal so I'll believe it when it happens. The one thing I'll be interested in when we do get matched is how long our daughter has been in care. I'm fine with the wait if it means our daughter gets to stay with her birth family longer. But if in fact our daughter has been in care for a while and it's just that it took longer than usual to get the referral paperwork together, that would be concerning to me. If I've learned anything from this waiting process, it's not to count on anything. But I'm remaining hopeful that we will know who our daughter is soon!
at 7:43 PM
Friday, February 19, 2010
The boys have started a new routine and it's not one I want to end. They've always given each other a quick kiss or hug right before bedtime but it's now become one big lovefest. They roll around hugging and kissing each other for a long time (can you say bedtime avoidance?) and the conversation goes something like this:
Blake: "You're my best brother." Spencer: "We're best buds. When I'm 108 you'll be 107. We will always take care of each other."
I'll hold on to these nights as they get older and have the all-out-knock-down fights that I naively think they'll be too close to have.
at 8:55 PM
Wednesday, February 17, 2010
There seems to be a lot of energy around the number 3 these days. Our 3 year old son proudly proclaims "That's me!" whenever he sees the number 3. We are number 3 on the waitlist and have been waiting 3 months. There have been no infant girl referrals for 3 months. We were told the wait to receive our permit to begin our house project is 3 months. Hmmm. I'd be happy to be focused on another number when it comes to waiting....zero is sounding really good right now.
at 10:38 PM
Tuesday, February 16, 2010
I first began following this couple's journey as a fellow forum member with our prior agency. I was thrilled when they were finally matched with their children after years of trying. I've always appreciated her insight and candor. Anyone who is on this journey should read her latest post: Thoughts at Six Months Home.
at 10:11 PM
Friday, February 12, 2010
It's been a while since my last post. I've actually kind of tuned out a bit from my normal blog browsing and agency forum updates. I think I've needed to. We are going on almost 3 months of waiting after thinking we would be matched within a month at most (once we switched agencies). We were about #5 on the waitlist for an infant girl when we switched so that tells you how little movement there has been. My friend has been waiting at the #1 spot for almost 2 months. I've actually stopped jumping at every phone call because at this point I'm not even sure it will happen. I don't say that to be melodramatic. I'm just feeling like it's all a little surreal. On one hand you definitely want your daughter to be with her birth family as long as possible before having to be relinquished, but we are fairly confident our daughter is likely already in Holt's care. They are just needing to work through the referral paperwork. So the wait continues. I've actually gotten a lot better at waiting for the call. I am not as distracted as I was and am just trying to stay focused on each day with my boys. Life is good. Much to be thankful for.
at 8:41 PM